Counselling

A person makes the best choice they can, give their map of the world. All our actions have at least ONE positive purpose. The action may appear to be self-defeating, bizarre or even evil, but for you, it may seem the best way forward.

So behind any extreme emotion or behaviour, and that includes frustration, sadness and anger, there is always an underlying need; a positive intention. When we dig into it, it is usually protection in one form or other. Protection of the self or, sometimes, protection of another.

Flexibility of thought and behaviour, gives you more freedom of choice and more influence in your world. The ability to have multiple perspectives gives you the wisdom to communicate more effectively and meet people where they are at and lead them to understanding themselves a little bit more.

Our experience of reality is purely subjective. We filter information through our senses, beliefs and past experiences and then interpret it. We are forming beliefs, judgements and opinions from gestation to age 7, and then we reinforce them through experience. You will already have a map of the world that you reference and make decisions from, albeit limited.

We create strategies according to our past experience, beliefs and values. We are all executing these strategies perfectly, but the strategies may be poorly designed, ineffective and create unwanted results.

Every thought, feeling, experience you have, or have ever had, is stored away in your memory. When you learn to access them, you can use them any time you want.

If what you’re doing is getting undesired results, do something else! You can only change your own behaviour. However, when you start behaving differently, others will follow.

Learning is not the passive storage of information but the active creation of knowledge through experience. The learning is in the doing. So if you want to understand something, take action and do it. Experiential learning is key.

There is no such thing as a resistant person, only inflexible communicators. If someone doesn’t understand you properly, and you are not getting your desired outcome, it’s up to you to explain yourself in terms that they understand. If you are not getting the results you want, take responsibility for the communication and change it.

What you make of life is up to you. Every experience may be viewed as an opportunity to learn and move on. There is no failure, only feedback; no mistakes, only results; no errors, only learning. Choose to be the creator of your experience rather than being a victim of circumstance.

Humans learn by copying. Children are learning through imitation all the time! If anyone else has ever done it, then it is possible to learn how to do it. You can model a skill someone else has, or model something you do well and use it in other areas of your life.

Mind and body interact and influence each other. When change happens in one, the other will be affected. When we think differently, our body changes, when we act differently, our thoughts and feelings change. Our body hears everything our minds say, so mastering the mind and practising the art of being in the moment has a huge beneficial impact on the body and vice versa.

The brain experiences real and imagined situations in the same way. The same place in the brain fires up and is stimulated and releases the emotional peptides, whether it’s a real experience or imagined. We can use our imagination to alter the perception of reality, heal yourself on the emotional level or energetic level as well as on the physical level.